Reflective Honesty. Hello 35.

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Hey you beautiful sexy humans. WOW 35. I’m 35. Thirty-five. The big three five. Is it time for a mid life crisis lol?

Y’all I’m being dramatic but really I’m amazed. 2023 ended up being a very reflective year for me. It challenged my core and revealed soooo much. In a spirit of revaluation, lets close chapter 34 with all the lessons I’ve learned and sometimes MUCH NEEDED daily reminders.

By the way these are in no particular order. In fact I’m a little over two weeks into my new age.

  1. You need a daily relationship with God.
  2. Marriage is ever evolving.
  3. The need for change will be the deepest thing you have ever felt and needed.
  4. You don’t just want your business to be successful you want it to be profitable. Profit and success don’t have to mean the same thing.
  5. I’m a perfectionist.
  6. I don’t like small talk and I’m okay with that.
  7. Life has given me some type of ptsd (I blame 2020. 2020 was a lot)
  8. I’m not good at being a good friend. Now that I know that I can make changes.
  9. I can have deep relationships.
  10. My parents are people.
  11. People actually like me.
  12. I’m insecure about my appearance.
  13. Stress and anxiety are detrimental.
  14. My ability to find peace in the middle of chaos is God given.
  15. People are drawn to me. (scary. I honestly don’t know why half the time. But its cool.)
  16. I positively impact those around me.
  17. I have been scared to fully claim all of who I am.
  18. I’m not the best communicator.
  19. I really like talking about business, so much so its almost all I talk about.
  20. I can’t pour from an empty cup. I literally don’t have it in me.
  21. God is my main source for joy.
  22. Fear of failure is worse than failure itself.
  23. I will come across as judgmental sometimes.
  24. I internalize others opinion of me. (that is changing now. I wasn’t always openly aware of this behavior).
  25. I am always evolving.
  26. Thinking you’re a bad mom is normal. You’re probably a great mom.
  27. I’m still learning how to communicate better.
  28. I’m not always okay. and that’s okay.
  29. At some point I internalized peoples negative opinion and limiting beliefs about overweight people and began limiting myself and seeing myself as “less”. (I identified it and am now working towards changing it).
  30. Saying “I’m not everyone’s cup of tea” doesn’t excuse me from properly communicating with people whos tea I may not be.
  31. Being authentic on the internet doesn’t always mean telling it all. You can tactfully express your realness and when you don’t know how, its okay to say nothing.
  32. Trusting God with your EVERYTHING doesn’t come natural. He knows this about you and loves you anyway. His grace while you figure it out will never run out.
  33. It’s okay to only speak when you have something to say.
  34. I’m am not the best at lending grace to those close to me. (I’m working on it. My family says I’m very black and white).
  35. Life is full of new things you can and should experience. Do it All in Faith. (That is the Sexy Human Way ;)).

Let me know if any of these stuck out to you in the comments. Also what is something that you learned during your life that has left a lasting impact?

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